I can relate so well to this. Lately I've been shocked to discover how many people also relate to my oldest child trauma or always having to put everyone else before myself.
The part that stayed with me wasn’t about needing people. It was the idea that sometimes we become so good at surviving that nobody notices we’re still carrying the survival strategy.
This is a big problem for INFPs. Our introverted feeling is very emotionally self-sufficient so we end up shutting off all vulnerability. We lament that no one knows us while we make ourselves unknown.
There is so much truth here. This could have been written specifically for me. Beneath all of this, though, is a foundation of shame. To need, to struggle, to ask, to exist in a less-than-perfect state is shameful. This is what I'm working to overcome. I don't extend the shame to others. It's reserved for myself.
I can relate so well to this. Lately I've been shocked to discover how many people also relate to my oldest child trauma or always having to put everyone else before myself.
And so we'll put. Thank you for this!
The part that stayed with me wasn’t about needing people. It was the idea that sometimes we become so good at surviving that nobody notices we’re still carrying the survival strategy.
A very important article, thank you.
This is a big problem for INFPs. Our introverted feeling is very emotionally self-sufficient so we end up shutting off all vulnerability. We lament that no one knows us while we make ourselves unknown.
Thank you very much it’s a great opportunity to read this article and learn about myself and work on it as a way to heal my inner child.
Thank you!
This is the whole theme of my own SubStack. I never realized how many women are walking around with this burden.
There is so much truth here. This could have been written specifically for me. Beneath all of this, though, is a foundation of shame. To need, to struggle, to ask, to exist in a less-than-perfect state is shameful. This is what I'm working to overcome. I don't extend the shame to others. It's reserved for myself.