One line stayed with me: "You learned to survive love before you learned to receive it." It reminds me that healing isn't always about learning something new—sometimes it's about slowly believing that peace, consistency, and care don't have to be earned. Thank you for this thoughtful piece.
Wow. This is ringing very true to me. I've just started therapy again after many years, and I'm engaged to someone wonderful who I've bought a house with. I love them beyond anything, but I still find myself having the feelings and reactions discussed here. It's a subject I've been struggling with and discussing with my therapist, and seeing it all put into such clear evocative words helps me name it so much more clearly. Thank you for writing this, this means the world.
I will read this many times over. This is so detailed and hits every point of This type of LOVE AND SELF CARE every person should have after being healed. THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THIS ❤️
Have had the wrong perception of love my whole life, untill about 7 months ago..it is not easy dealing and coping to realise, how love was twisted into a horror and almost made me give up on life , not just true ,honest, calm and gentle love.
Maybe I will not find it, but at least now it is like I have received confirmation of what I realised.
Hope alot of younger people read this, hard to only realise it, when you feel like your life is over.
Even now I try to deserve love. I try to deserve my own love and forgiveness.
One line stayed with me: "You learned to survive love before you learned to receive it." It reminds me that healing isn't always about learning something new—sometimes it's about slowly believing that peace, consistency, and care don't have to be earned. Thank you for this thoughtful piece.
Wow. This is ringing very true to me. I've just started therapy again after many years, and I'm engaged to someone wonderful who I've bought a house with. I love them beyond anything, but I still find myself having the feelings and reactions discussed here. It's a subject I've been struggling with and discussing with my therapist, and seeing it all put into such clear evocative words helps me name it so much more clearly. Thank you for writing this, this means the world.
To stop myself from shutting down and closing off when I admit that I have needs remains my biggest challenge. Thank you for these words. 💜
I will read this many times over. This is so detailed and hits every point of This type of LOVE AND SELF CARE every person should have after being healed. THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THIS ❤️
I needed this message today ❤️
YES! 🙏💛🪷🗽🌻 and immense gratitude to you for expressing this so clearly and compassionately🌻
Thank you so much, that makes a lot of sense to me 🥰
Wow.....this is like a biography of my life.
I am 52, this all makes complete sense.
Have had the wrong perception of love my whole life, untill about 7 months ago..it is not easy dealing and coping to realise, how love was twisted into a horror and almost made me give up on life , not just true ,honest, calm and gentle love.
Maybe I will not find it, but at least now it is like I have received confirmation of what I realised.
Hope alot of younger people read this, hard to only realise it, when you feel like your life is over.
Thank you so much
Beautifully said.
This is one is the best articles I’ve read in so long that gave me so much clarity! Hits home for sure!
This is just so beautiful. True, raw, real, and resonated with strength. Thank you 🙏